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#smalljoys

listening to christmas carols in weather that feels like christmas. fondue. fluid sunday plans. a blanket + a good book. returning a book to the library and having a new one waiting for me. finishing up my christmas shopping. finalizing upcoming travel plans. having an extra pair of gloves to lend. laughter. using emojis as a secret code. finding roxy’s in harvard yard. hearing a friend sing for the first time. having a reason to brave the rain. a red umbrella. new lip balm. having friends who are good at the things i’m bad at. a fully charged phone. facetime with family. trying a new recipe and having it be no so bad. finding a candle that smells almost like that one my sis-in-law gave me two years ago. cold, clear moonlight. a warm bed.

having all these things to be grateful for = BIG joys.

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podiatry

sister J sent this picture:

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along with this note: “I have learned your lesson that feet should not come into contact with immovable objects.”

i TRIED to complain and moan and sob about the pain of this lesson, but she went and had to educate herself. hopefully santa will bring her snazzy socks in addition to my cane, which i’ll let her borrow.

readers: may you learn from these two mumfords…and bubble wrap your feet on a daily basis.

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wednesday

i forgot my socks. i’ve never done anything athletic without socks but my opponent was waiting on me. i shoved my feet in my shoes, cranked the laces tight, and headed to the squash court. i’ve never beaten this particular player, so i proceed without any expectations other than to try to win at least a few points every game. it’s a liberating thing going into an event knowing you’re going to fail, but doing it anyways. trying your hardest regardless.

i won two of the five games. a PR! and that fifth game, the rubber match, he really had to work. he showcased how good he is so i didn’t stand a chance, but he was trying. this wasn’t a pity game.

maybe i should forget my socks more often?

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west coast freelance children

M is sweet, so sweet, and on the other hand, fouls out of her basketball game. perfection. her competitive side is all mumford. she is statuesque and silly and the perfect height for hugs. she gets lost in hogwarts. she is hard on herself. she checks in on L when he cries. she and A battle over cards and video games, but then lose their breath laughing at each other. she is a delight. she is a texting machine. she is the first born.

A is a sponge for love and video games. anytime there’s a hug to be given or a glowing TV or tablet or phone screen, he’s a moth to that flame. he trains with nun-chucks. he tickles my sides with dagger-like fingers. lunch is his favorite subject. he hates writing, but willing spent 90 minutes with me going over his paper, adding in details, standing his ground when he thought the boy in his story would say goodbye before hanging up the phone despite me saying the goodbye was implied. he teaches me tae kwan do and five crowns and facts about the space needle. he is the middle child.

L is up for anything at any time: a card game, a starbucks run, a chihuly exhibit, four square, pass, catch, but he hovers near his dad when we go to the top of the space needle. he’s goofy and serious and daring and fast. his trash talking during our game of war is legendary. he’ll deliver handfuls of m&ms to you because even though it isn’t his turn for a treat, he wants to be involved. he is the youngest.

these kids are turning out spectacularly thanks to gargantuan efforts from their parents to be good parents, to have a solid marriage, and to better themselves as individuals. they are the foundation for these kids to stand on and they’re doing it right.

well, except for the part where they live on the opposite coast.