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December 31, 2019

“Hi, Maga. It’s Abby.”

“Oh, Abby darling. It’s so good to hear your voice.”


“What did you do today.”

“I went to the movies.”


“The m-o-v-i-e-s.”

“The what?”

“The theater.”

“Oh! What was the production?”

“Little Women.”

“Little what?”

“Women. Females. By Louisa May Alcott.”

“Oh, yes. I know it. Was it a good play?”

“I really enjoyed the movie, yes.”

“Oh, it was a film?!”


“Did you go to work today?”

“Nope. I had the day off.”

“Oh, that’s how you were able to go to the movies today because you weren’t at work.”


“When are you coming to see me?”

“In March. For your birthday.”

“What day, please.”

“Sometime around your birthday. I don’t have the exact date yet.”

“My birthday is March 25th.”

“Yes! I know.”

“It’ll be fun. We’ll go to Cherry Hills and do some shopping and it’ll be good and all that.”

“I can’t wait to see you!”

“How much is it?” Maga asked.

Now it was my turn to ask for clarification. “Huh?”

“Until you come to see me.”

“It’s a couple of months away, unfortunately.”

“Well, if you can come any earlier, you’re always welcome.”

“Thank you! I hope to be able to visit sooner.”

We closed out the conversation with some repetitions of the word decade. It’s a big word and my voice is small, but working together, I was able to get the point across and we each wished each other a very happy new year!


November 26, 2019

“My caregiver asked me if I’d heard from you,” Maga said.

“And here I am.”

“Are you doing anything fun?”

“I’m in Virginia.”

“You’re down at the beginning?”

I never expected to have her confused by the state that shares her name, but this blog isn’t called “my mumbling stuff” for no reason…

We then covered which family members we each were getting to see for Thanksgiving, grateful our words were audible and our livings rooms full.


February 5, 2019

“Are there lots of exhibits there?” Maga asked.

“Oh, yes. Tons.”

“I’ve only been to Disneyland.”

“That came after Disney World.”

“Are you sure? I thought Disneyland was first.”

“I’m pretty sure World was first.”

We’d had this conversation or a version of it three times and I was about to google it when Sister E piped up that Land was first. Maga was right. I was wrong.

That’s what happens when you’re sharing a hotel room with three other people. They can hear your conversation without even trying. Unlike Maga who, again, didn’t have her hearing aids in and required a five minute explanation/repetition of the title of the movie Toy Story (best part of the park(s) so far!)

“Have you been to Disneyland,” Maga asked.


“I think the CA one came before the FLA one…”

What also happens is that Maga keeps needling a topic until you’ve actually agreed with her, agreed with her just to be able to change the topic, or found the true answer. Now if that isn’t making proper use of Disney Magic, you can take away my Mickey ears.


December 27, 2018

“How many are you?” Maga asked.


“Now that’s a big happy group.”

“It is indeed.”

“The holidays are a good time for families to get together.”

“That they are. And what did Santa bring you?”

“Presents, candy, perfume, the usual.”

I knew my parents had given her an unusual technological gift, and so, yes, I was fishing for information because we hadn’t had a proper chance to talk the day before. Maga’s omission of that gift spoke volumes and yet was 100% not surprising given her age and disinterest in all things technology. Plus, I’d seen her reaction and confusion to it the day before / the way her 10yo great-grandson explained it with ease.

I reeled in the hard questions and allowed her to direct the conversation back to the weather and how many family members I was surrounded by.

“I wish you luck and success,” Maga said as we wrapped up the conversation with talk of the new year.

“I wish you love and good health,” I replied.


July 31, 2018

“That must have been a very special time in Greece,” Maga said.

“Beyond. Special. Amazing. So so fun.”

“How’s your jet lag?”

“Not good, actually. I’m having a terrible time getting back to a normal schedule.”

“You’ve been home a week already?”

“Not quite. Not yet.”

“Oh, well these things take time. At least a week. At least they did in my experience.”

“What tricks did you use to get over it?”

“Oh, well, probably sleeping pills which would help me finish out the night.”

“There’s an idea.”

“Just know that good, normal times are ahead of you.”

“I’ll keep that in mind!”

“What time is it there?” Maga asked, “8pm?”

“No, 11pm.”

“What?!? Where are you?”

“East Coast.”

“Oh that’s right, of course. Oh, my goodness you should get to bed.”

“I’m already in it.”

“You are?! Now there’s a smart girl.”

With a brain functioning not even remotely on full capacity, I’ll take the compliment and wrap myself up in sweet dreams, too, while I’m at it.