feelings

spoiled

there are many ways in which a person can be spoiled. the typical things one thinks of are:

money
electronic gadgets
jewelry
cars
phones
clothes

and so i didn’t see it coming, but after this past weekend, i’ve realized spoiled can be used to describe me.

not in the ways detailed above, of course, because the ways in which my parents spoil me include them driving 300+ miles for a visit that lasted less than 48 hours, them picking up the checks at all meals despite my insistence that i could afford (and wanted) to pay for a north end dessert, them walking all over boston as we attempted to change up our usual routine, them explaining math to me, them tasting beer with me despite the fact our taste buds are seemingly unrelated (aka, we like opposite flavors), them patiently waiting (ok, dad was across the street in the bookstore) when i wanted to browse a little bit longer in a store, them taking directions from their directionally challenged daughter and following their own much stronger sense when i lost my way, them bringing me gifts of new dish towels because i needed some fall themed ones, them being flexible with the days’ events, them killing time by visiting my office and pretending to be interested in the technical aspects of my day job, them splitting a chocolate mousse dessert so i could have two cannolis, them sitting in hours of traffic, and them encouraging me always and loving me no matter what i do (or don’t do).

i never expected spoiled to arrive in so many different shaped packages — tiny, intangible, tasty, large, hilarious, family saturated moments, but then again, i do have an awesome set of parents, who are an amazing duo of role models, and two people i’m proud to giggle with and on the other hand take serious advice from.

i also never suspected i’d be so excited about receiving autumn themed dish towels either.

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let the spills begin

i love this commercial. (yeah, words i didn’t think i’d ever utter.) i don’t think it’s the fact it’s about the olympics, but rather about the rough and tumble beginnings we all make (made) as kids (adults) at the start of our dreams.

what i take away from this is that it’s important to keep in mind that whenever we start something new, whether it’s a book, a building project, a painting, running or whatever you’re interested in, we are all beginners. no matter how old you are.

and that’s okay.

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the things kids do

this card arrived in the mail the other day.

my birthday is in january.

baby mac’s name was on the return address, so i figured she must have something to do with this, not to mention the “call me for an explanation” note sister J wrote on the back of the envelope…

i called.

me: sooooo, i got an interesting letter today.

sister J: oh my gosh. that was all baby mac. we were cleaning up some of the last remaining boxes [from the move] and she found a stack of hallmark cards. she saw that one and said, ‘send to abby?'”

me: *wonders why fuzzy golf cards and belated birthdays make baby mac think of me*

sister J: and then she wanted to get out the dot markers to decorate it. i let her do her thing and tried to stay out of it. i was very surprised when she refused to use her favorite purple marker. i asked her why and she said “abby no like purple.”

me: i have nothing against purple.

sister J: well, she knows sister E likes purple and i suppose only one person at a time can like a color, so in her head, you hate purple.

me: fair enough.

(side note: a few days after i got this card, sister J and baby mac were talking about colors again. when asked what my favorite color was, baby mac thought and thought and then said, “swedish fish!” well played, baby mac, well played. or should i say, well trained, aunt abby, well trained.)

sister J: did i even write anything in the card?

me: yes, you wrote her name and i love you. it’s super sweet.

sister J: and the best part was that she was SO EXCITED to take the letter to the mailbox. checking the mailbox and carrying in the mail is one of her favorite parts of the day, so she couldn’t wait to put something in it for a change.

her love of the mailbox was certainly infused in that card, as it made my checking of my mailbox the most exciting part of that day. i only wish i could be there to see her face when she finds the bright blue card i mailed to her.

in the meantime, i’m going to cherish this tangible element of the randomness of a kid’s brain.

UPDATED TO ADD:

the blue letter arrived!
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feelings

too much

having long distance family feels slightly less long distance with today’s technology.

facetime with baby mac

it’s quickly become a sunday afternoon tradition — spending time together via apple’s facetime — because life moves fast and the kids grow with each passing day and i’m just trying to keep up as best i can from afar.

when sister J overfills a bowl of cereal and mutters “oops, too much,” and baby mac counters, “but mommy, i want too much,” that’s what i’m going for.

too much of the screen getting flipped around, getting put on mute, staring at the ceiling while sister J lays the phone down to put shoes on her daughter, listening to bubba mac babble and coo, chatting with sister J while baby mac shuts the doors and windows of her play house, watching baby mac dance around, pour water from a bottle into a container, “feed” me swedish fish, and/or her (accidentally) hanging up on me because it’s all those little moments of every day silliness that make up the big picture of family.

i want too much, too.

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role reversal

i was having trouble adjusting to the change of a (relatively drastic) new haircut when advice on how to deal with that came from an unlikely source.

sister E.

seeing as i’m 11 years her senior, the role of older sister falls with relative ease upon me, so imagine my surprise when she stepped into the wise older sister position after i sent her a picture of my new hair + what i thought was a silly face.

she saw right through it to my discomfort with the new look.

she had recently undergone a radical haircut (12 inches off) as well, which is how she knew just what to say.

sister E: hey. i cried. like sobbed the first day i had my hair cut. but i played with it and finally decided that it was shorter than i had ever wanted but i would make it work until it grew out more. why be unhappy, it’ll only look worse if you are sad under the haircut. if you are happy and radiating it doesn’t matter what your hair looks like.

me: that is the truest story ever.

sister E: then live it, you are beautiful. own it.

me: when did you become 45?

sister E: over night. haircut did wonders.

i think she wears the role of older sister, not to mention her adorable new haircut, quite well.

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